Sunday 25 October 2015

‘I’ve not seen my husband for 10 years’

• My husband abandoned me and the children. He got a job in Owerri 12 years ago and stopped calling me since 10 years. All efforts to reach him proved abortive — Wife

A housewife, Bose Ayinde, on Tuesday told an Igando Customary Court, Lagos, that she had not seen nor heard from her husband for the past 10 years. Bose, a 39-year-old trader, told the court that her husband, Nureni, with whom she had three children in their 18-year-old marriage, abandoned her for 10 years. 

“My husband abandoned me and the children; he got a job in Owerri 12 years ago and stopped calling me since 10 years. All efforts to reach him proved abortive. “I always travel to Abeokuta in Ogun to see his parents and informed them that their son was no longer calling me. “They always tell me that I should be patience that he will call me that he used to communicate with them. “I used to beg them to give me his new phone number so that I can call him but they refused,’’ she said. The mother of three accused her husband who was not in court of lack of care.

 “I have been the one paying the house rent and paying the children school fees, he did not call to ask for the children nor visit home for once. “His parent never call nor ask for the children. Anytime I go to them for their assistance in their granddaughters school fees, they always tell me to wait that my husband will soon come.’’ Bose pleaded with the court to dissolve the 18-year-old marriage because she was no longer in love and wanted to move on with her life.


 “I am no longer in love with him and besides, I want to move on with my life, she said. The President of the court, Mr Adegboyega Omilola, has adjourned the case .

‘She is an unrepentant drunkard, smoker’


• She has since grown to be an unrepentant smoker and drunkard. They know her in all the beer parlours in Iseyin here. She does not have respect for her marital status or the integrity of our children. The situation has forced me to chase her out, but now I want the dissolution to be formalised —Husband

For being an unrepentant drunkard and smoker, a middle-aged man, Kunle Isalu, has urged a Grade “C” Customary Court in Iseyin, Oyo state, to dissolve his 10-year marriage with his wife. The wife, Lara, with whom he already has four children, developed the bad habits over the years, following her bad friends. The children are eight, six, four and two respectively. While explaining his ordeal, he said: “Lara has always been a very good wife until of recent when she started keeping a bad company of friends. 

“The first day I came home from a month’s journey was when I first noticed that her mouth smelled of alcohol and cigarette. “She has since grown to be an unrepentant smoker and drunk; she now drinks at will to the extent that they know her in all the beer parlours in Iseyin here. “She does not even have respect for her marital status or the integrity of our children; the situation has forced me to chase her out, but now I want the dissolution to be formalized. 

“All our children are still with me and I’m sure they don’t want to go with her. I really can’t explain what the problem is. “We have summoned various family meetings to make her change, but all was to no avail. “I want her to drop my name after this dissolution, my lord.” The President of the court, Raimi Oyegbenle, while reacting to the appeal, expressed his displeasure with the woman’s absence in court, in spite of series of court summons. 

After serving a fresh summon on Lara, compelling her to appear in court on the next adjourned date, he adjourned further hearing on the matter

How to curb nudity in our films –Ali Nuhu

Talented Kannywood star, Ali Nuhu, had attracted millions of fans long before he started featuring in Nollywood movies. He talks about his principles, the importance of cinema and the role of NFVCB in addressing piracy and nudity in this interview 
You are a versatile actor; we’ve seen you assume roles from various cultures. How challenging can that be?
I have done a lot of roles either as an Igbo prince or Benin prince. As an actor if you are given a script and you intend to deliver, what is expected of you is to carry out an extensive research to be sure of what you are getting into and also, get someone from that tribe to put you through.
You could even get some words that you can slip in while you are acting so you can convince the person watching you are from that part and that is what I normally do. When I came into Nollywood, a lot of the actors, the producers and directors were very friendly, they really embraced me and that made things easier for me because they always put me through and that is why you see me interpret those roles like that.
What was the reaction of your Kannywood fans when you decided to expand your coast to Nollywoood?
Initially when I started out, there were complaints here and there because people didn’t know what they will really see before the movies are released but along the line, the movies started coming and there were some negative comments especially when it comes to kissing and bedroom scenes because of the diverse cultures and traditions that we have.
The first thing I take into consideration is that I am a Muslim and Islamic actions are being judged according to intentions, this is a profession, we are only acting, it is not like it is the real thing we do it is a make believe thing so anybody who thinks we are going extra mile in the kissing or bedroom scenes should understand that there are people there and certainly nothing will happen.
When it comes to choice of roles, I am very sensitive because I take some things into consideration. I don’t go to the extreme but then at the same time I don’t just play every role that is offered to me, I try to control that and what I try to make my fans understand is that for an actor, you are supposed to act in whatever language that you can speak or you can communicate in.
If you are given a role to play in whatever language you should branch out and do that because this is what shows that you are a versatile actor. For most of my fans they were able to understand these things and from my own part I was able to control some things so that they don’t go out of hand.
There is a lot going on in the industry right now, there seem to be a shift in the quality of productions compared to when we first started, but there is still much work to be done. How can the industry be better improved?
A lot of things have to be put in place in the entire industry that includes Nollywood and Kannywood. I am talking about putting up things like good marketing structures. When these good marketing structures are put in place, I am very sure these movies will make more money than they already have and when they make more money, you won’t have to tell a film maker go and perfect your job, the person on his or her own accord would go ahead to make sure he masters his job because we have the talents.
If you take a look at when the industry started out, it was more or less a trial and error venture but with time, we now have graduates from various fields of film making in Nigeria. This means people have accepted film making and its various field as a profession and they are ready to go for it.
All we need is capital and talking about this capital, you wouldn’t say the government or an organisation must lend you money for you to do quality movie, all that is required is when you have a good marketing structure, the movies will surely turn in money and when they turn in money you will be able to perfect and make your craft better.
Are you saying the distribution framework of the Censors Board is not delivering on its mandate as it should?
Yes, indeed the censorship board did present a pattern of marketing but then if there are no structures to carry it out then it won’t be effective. For instance, you say the marketers are going to buy sales from the Censors Board, fine they pay money, you buy sales. As you are buying the sales, what guarantees are you going to give them that their jobs are not going to be pirated or if they are pirated you will stand up for them? If there is no security like that who goes for it that is the first problem.
Secondly, the movies we sell where do we go to get them from? We need to have shops or sale outlets across the country where these movies can be sold, where people can access them but if we don’t have this why will somebody go and spend their money buying sales from you and you don’t do these things for them. I think this is where issues came up and the whole thing just crashed.
At the rate at which things are going in the industry, we seem not to be able to separate marketing from piracy, wherever marketing is mentioned the next word you hear is piracy. In your assessment what do you think could be done to cut down the menace? In almost every country where movies are produced, pirates are there but there is a way to cut it down.
If we have enough cinemas where all our movies can run in, I am sure this whole piracy saga can be cut down. Before the movies go out and gets pirated or before people go to the theatre to dub, a lot of people must have watched these movies in the cinema and when they watch these movies in the cinema, the distributors get their profits, they get royalties, they pay the producers and everything is settled but when you don’t have sufficient cinemas because presently these movies run In just a few cinemas, they will be forced to be taken out of the cinema before everybody goes to watch it why, because other movies are on the pipeline waiting. When you take the movie out of the cinema before you know it you want to put it on DVD and putting it on that DVD is giving room to the pirates; that is the problem.
If there is any organisation that is interested in undertaking marketing of Nigerian movies generally, I am talking about Nollywood, Kannywood, I think what they should put in place is cinemas. For instance we have in-house cinemas there is Ozone, there is Silverbird but we need to build more structures at different places. When you talk about northern Nigeria, Kano is the only place that has just one cinema. A multiplex with about six halls is not enough for northern Nigeria because people of the north have had the cinema culture even before now so I think we need more cinemas. Not until we get more cinemas we will not be able to talk about tackling this piracy issue.
But with the issue of insecurity and people trying to avoid crowded places, the cinema culture seems to be dwindling especially in the North or don’t you think so?
Security wise everybody is conscious and everybody is careful about where to go and what to do but when we talk about multiplexes, multiplexes are mostly located in malls and these malls are highly secured, there is a very good security system there so I don’t think we have a problem going to the cinema in Nigeria. If you take a look at our cultural norms in the industry and the age-long stance of the Censors Board, there seems to be a defect. Recently, there have been some Indian Hausa translations and those films contain some unprintable scenes.
As a professional, does it in any way affect your mode of distribution?
Those Indian movies that are translated in Hausa, they are dubbed in Hausa. I wouldn’t really say they affect us directly but talking about the Kano state censorship board, there is a new executive secretary which I think is going to make things better. It is a thing of worry that your own home made movies come you don’t pass them because a lady is wearing a jean trouser but when an Indian movie is brought that is translated in Hausa and the lady wears a bikini, it passes. What were you shying away from, nakedness, nakedness is right there so why don’t you take that into consideration but when you talk they will tell you they are Indians that is their tradition.
That is not Indian tradition, tell them to do Indian tradition and bring to you, that is what I think should happen. It is really a problem when it comes to that, it is like you are not encouraging your own people, for instance people produce 100 movies and then you decide to cut it into 50 movies then the industry begins to face a problem because people go out of work, secondly when these movies are dubbed, go into the market people buy them and the rate at which they buy them affects the quantities of our own home-made movies people buy. So the question is, are you promoting your own or are you trying to demote their own?
What advice would you proffer?
Ask these people to get a permit from the owners of these jobs because I know what it takes to get the rightful ownership of a movie, sound dubbing it and releasing it. If they do the normal thing they do, you won’t get more than ten or five of such films in a year released into the market.
Nudity has become a big issue in the Nigerian film industry, even from the posters we see indecent exposure yet children watch these films. How best can this issue be addressed?
There are no quality movies where you have such things but you see, the industry is dissected in its own way. When you watch such kind of movies, look at the faces in the movies they are not the faces you want to see in movies. What I will advise the National Film and Video Censors Board to do is to really take that into consideration because take it or leave it, movies influence what the society does.
The way people dress; they look at what actors wear in movies and they say they want to copy from them so automatically even little kids will tell you I have seen this person praying in this film I want to pray so if that person makes love in that film they will tell like to make love because they want to have a taste of what that person has done. Honestly it is a thing of worry the Censors Board should do something about it.
At some point, most Nigerians especially ladies, preferred Gollywood movies to Nigerian films, would you say that is still the case?
They used to but I don’t think that it is existing presently because the advantage Gollywood movies had was that they started out the new pattern of movies, movies we make for cinema before Nigerians picked up but presently, Nigerians are into serious cinema kind of movies, for instance we have October 1, 30 Days in Atlanta, The Meeting and a host of other movies.
These are movies that are good for consumption for anybody, any home, you can take your family to the theatre to watch because they are the right kind of movies we should be making. Maybe if you go to the cinema frequently you will testify that the preference for Gollywood movies is no longer in existence; it used to be.
How do you manage scandals?

Scandals are always a part of the profession whether you are a footballer musician, athlete or an actor; it is a part of the whole thing. What you should try to do is keep your head low, let your job do the talking. Do a good job leave and the audience to decide for you, you don’t have to go into twitter or Instagram war with your colleagues to make your presence felt. That is what I will advise celebrities to do, that is what I normally adopt

15 invaluable dressing tips


  1. 1. Fit is king – The most dramatic im­provement you can make in your style is to make sure everything fits impeccably. Most guys wear clothes that are too large. Make sure everything you wear is almost hugging the shape of your body – without being tight. Bad fit is an epidemic. The Kinowear Bible shows you how to avoid the “bad fit disease”.
  2. Keep it simple – You want a ward­robe that looks great on you, but don’t over­do it. Don’t wear more than three pieces of jewelry or more than three colors. Don’t dress like a rock star unless you’re in a band. If you want to be flashy, a simpler but stylish look would be sporting a black striped dress shirt with a white blazer, a dark pair of jeans, a dressy belt, and your sharpest dress shoes. You could also add a flashy watch or a simple accessory like an interesting necklace, but nothing more.
  3. Change the way you see casual – Casual doesn’t have to be boring. Have fun with collared shirts, or take some inspira­tion from those who approach casual a bit differently.
  4. Pay attention to your supporting pieces – Some sweaters are lean and others are big and chunky. The first rule of thumb is that your top and bottom halves need to match. If you’re wearing a big, chunky, rugged fisherman knit sweater, your bot­tom needs to be rugged, too. Don’t wear a fisherman’s sweater with a beautiful silk-and-wool suit pant. Instead, wear it with something as casual as cargos or jeans, or dress it up with a Harris tweed blazer.
  5. Never go shopping alone – Most of the time, it’s tough to trust the sales people because they usually work for commission. Shop with a friend who will give you their honest opinion.
  6. Stay a notch above – Don’t overdo it to a fault, but dare to take some risks. It’s always better to be a little bit overdressed than underdressed in any setting. All you have to do is think about where and who you’re going to be with and just step it up one notch. But make sure you’re not bet­ter dressed than someone who is more im­portant in a certain setting, like your boss.
  7. Never underestimate the power of details – The last thing on is usually the first thing noticed. So mind the details instead of throwing together the main parts of your outfit. “Details” can include a scarf, a subtle pocket square, or the way you tie your tie knot.
  8. Invest in a superb pair of shoes – If it’s one thing that women will notice, it’s your shoes. Especially how clean and sharp they look. It’s easy to wash and press the rest of your clothes to keep them looking new, but most guys disregard their shoes. Show that you’re a man of taste by getting a great pair of shoes and keeping them in pristine condition.
  9. Fashion Tees with logos – When you’re going around with a big logo on your shirt, you risk looking like a walking billboard. Lose the lame Coca-Cola shirt and go for a classic v-neck tee or some­thing artsy.
  10. Disregard trends – Beware of buy­ing something just because it’s “in” right now – stick to what you truly like. A lot of people rush to get in on the latest trend and end up with a bunch of clothes they don’t wear. It’s better to learn to build a versatile and timeless wardrobe first – then bring in your own twists with some of the new fashion. This one tip will save you so much money
  11. Don’t be a sucker for brand names – Don’t be a Patrick Bateman. Be­fore you decide to purchase an item, ask yourself if you are buying it simply be­cause of the brand name or because you love the quality and style. Ask yourself, “Would I buy this if there was no logo on it?”
  12. Continually cultivate your image – Invest more time and money into your image. Cultivate your fashion sense. Your style is a huge mode of communication, and is worth caring for as much as your education, career, and relationships. Sign up for our free crash course on knowing your own style. Oscar Schoffler, longtime fashion editor of Esquire once said, “Never underestimate the power of what you wear. After all, there’s just a small bit of yourself sticking out at the collar and cuff. The rest of the world sees what you drape on your frame.”
  13. Ask for real feedback – Most of your friends and family aren’t going to go out of their way to tell you what looks bad. You have to ask for it. In fact, ask anyone and everyone you trust to tell you the truth. Ask your hairstylist, ask your best friend, ask your mother!
  14. Upgrade your shave – Even if your fashion is golden, an unkempt beard can be an attraction killer. Achieve a perfect shave by trying a shave brush and old-fashioned double-edged razor.
  15. Experiment with style – The only way you’ll really learn, is if you go out there and try new things. I make an effort to try something completely out of my comfort zone whenever I’m at a store – many times you’ll end up lov­ing something you never thought you would. If you make mistakes, life goes on. So many guys are afraid to express themselves through their style, don’t be one of them.