Kissing is part of the game

That kissing is very important in the game of intimacy is an understatement. It is a key instrument and that real romantic couples cannot but observe before making love. It serves as a form of introduction.
However, much as almost everyone would agree that kissing is significant, hardly do many make the best use of it. For instance, for most men, it is most of the time not properly explored before a plunge is taken into the real sexual activity. That is, even when it is being carried out as foreplay, it hardly lasts. It is done in a hurry.
Many may not agree with me, but the problem many have is that couples don’’t know how to kiss! Yes. Kissing is not all about putting the lips together or running the tongue on the other person’’s tongue or lips. Effectively done, it gives a good feeling that couples would normally want to last very long.
Why most couples prefer to get it done with very fast is because they don’’t enjoy it the way it should be. The truth of the matter is that only if couples find time to learn or do it the proper way would they know what they are missing.
Let’’s go through the techniques as put down by those who know better:
Do a few soft kisses. Start slow with soft, gentle kisses and skip the tongue and the teeth —— for now. If your partner seems receptive, you can move forward to French kissing. In case you don’’t know, French kissing is a system whereby you use your tongue during a kiss. One cannot understand why it is so referred in Western culture, anyway. While doing the kissing, avoid making your lips smack as the sound might distract. All you need to do is slow down and part your lips a little bit more if you find out that you are smacking. Also, avoid your lips against partner ’’s mouth. The slow gentle move allows you to ascertain the level of his or her interest. It also allows the partner to stop if he or she feels uncomfortable.
Maintain a moderate level of saliva. Avoid too much saliva. In case your lips are becoming too wet, you should withdraw and nicely reduce it.
““Lock”” lips. If your initial kisses have gone well, try a lip lock, which can lead to closer kisses. Essentially, you’’ll ““stack”” your lips. Putting your partner’’s lower lip between yours is the safest bet. Most people have larger lower lips, making them easier to grab gently with your lips. Breathe while you kiss. Ideally, you’’ll be able to breathe softly through your nose while you’’re kissing. If that’’s not possible, though, break away for a second to take a breath. It will be wrong to feel suffocated. If you breathe hard, you will only be showing a sign of being nervous or that you are rather excited, making your partner feel flattered.
Don’’t hang your hands. Put them to use. You can place your hands lightly on your partner’’s shoulders or around his or her waist. (In Western culture, girls generally put their hands on boys shoulders while he puts his hands around her waist.). You could pull your partner closer.
Also, put your hands on the sides of his or her face, using your thumb to sweep across the cheekbone, or put one hand under his or her chin and tilt it upward. Another seriously good move is to put both hands around the back of your partner’’s head and tangle them in his or her hair, gently pulling.
Test using tongue. Once you’’re in a lip lock with your partner’’s lower lip between both of yours, lightly run the tip of your tongue over it. If you can move it slowly, the better. Then, gauge your partner’’s response. If he or she presses in closer or returns the gesture, you’’re probably clear to keep increasing the intensity of the kiss. If your partner pulls away, maybe it’’s best to pull back the tongue for now and stick to lips-only kisses.
Try French kissing (if you like). Sweep your tongue along the inside of your partner’’s lower lip. Try to move slowly and lightly at first, increasing speed and pressure only if your partner seems to respond well. Slide the tip of your tongue inside your partner’’s mouth and gently move it against the tip of his or her tongue. Use light, darting motions and keep your tongue moving —— letting it sit limply in your partner’’s mouth isn’’t appealing and will bring a quick end to the kissing. Try deeper and harder strokes if your partner seems responsive.

Be sensitive however, to your partner’’s response to know whether to slow down or pull the brake. Ensure not to be too excited also to avoid hurting each other. Remember again that either of you can take the lead and of course, there is still room for an improvement. Enjoy.