‘My wife commits ‘Social Media’ adultery’

For catching his wife having illicit affairs on the social media, an Ekitibased businessman, Muyiwa Owolabi, has reportedly dragged his wife, Tinuola, to Ado Ekiti Customary Court to dissolve their ten-year-old marriage.
Reports say the woman, who did not argue over the claims, has agreed on the dissolution of the marriage, but the court is yet to reach a compromise on the custody of their two children.
While making his case, Owolabi insisted he has evidence of his wife’s internet ‘sexcapades’ with several men including his junior at secondary school, adding that Tinuola uses Facebook and WhatsApp to do her many connections.
Muyiwa presented print outs of the alleged ‘compromising’ pictures on WhatsApp, and his estranged wife’s conversation with one Toyin Igbalajobi, who allegedly connected her (Tinuola) with men in Lagos. These evidences were admitted by the court president, Mr Joseph Ogunsemi and marked as exhibits.
Among some of the alleged partners of the woman were Benson Onyechere, Muyiwa’s junior at Christ’s School, Ado Ekiti, Facebook lovers Taiwo Oyetunji and Alaba Sunday Samson (whom he claimed had the effrontery of coming to their matrimonial home to visit Tinuola) were also top of the list.

Others are Aduloju Olu and Andy Harris who is based overseas, Yinka Daramola and Kunle Lawal and Bashir(Naija.com)

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‘My husband sleeps with church members’

• At first, I thought he was always doing a follow up on them for deliverance or counseling. I cannot condone it anymore. It is becoming so glaring and disturbing —Wife

A Lagos State based top pastor and founder of a Bible believing church, Pastor Amadi Ibeh and his wife have become frequent visitors of Grade A Customary Court Ojo, in attempt to end their 7-years old marriage over the case of severe infidelity, battering, lack of respect, no more love and more.
According to the petitioner, their marital problems escalated when she started noticing unusual closeness between her husband and some female members of the church.
“At first, I thought he was always doing a follow up on them for deliverance or counselling.
Then I started hearing rumours of how he has been desecrating the house of God by having carnal knowledge of some of his prayer partners. I openly confronted him and denied it vehemently,” she lamented.
After the first encounter trying to make her husband desist from his unholy shenanigans, it was a flop. Yet the speculation kept disturbing her and was at the verge of tearing the church apart.
Taking another bold step of courage, the self-acclaimed prophetess asked her husband again about the ‘sex in the church’ accusation but painfully she got the beatings of her life.
“I couldn’t condone it anymore; it was becoming so glaring and disturbing. As a wife who cares about her husband and the welfare of the church, I asked him again if he has anything sexual relationship with some women in the church, but he descended on me and hit me mercilessly. His beatings later became constant and our marriage began to fell apart,” she said.
Since all her efforts to make her husband turn a new leaf fell on deaf ears, Gloria resulted for a formal dissolution of the union to give way for peace and the separation of their ministry.
Meanwhile, when the visibly embittered man was summoned into the evidence box to either affirm or deny the allegations leveled on him, it was a twist of tale from his account.
Amadi intensely denied soiling his hands in any form of adultery, but maintained that his wife was badly influenced by her friends and family who kept feeding her with false news and bad advice.
“I have tried all I can to make her believe in me and concentrate on taking our ministry to greater height but she wouldn’t listen.
I thought that my wife would one day change from her awkward behaviour but to my utmost dismay, I came back from my office one fateful day to meet my house deserted. She had parked out all her belongings including mine. namely my money, clothes, and other accessories. And till date, she is yet to return them back to me.
I am also fed up with her behavior but I don’t want to quit the union. I believe that with God everything is possible. I plead with the honorable court to intercede on my behalf to beg her to come back home.”
After listening to both parties, the members of the court tried to mediate and broker peace between them but the woman was adamant and insisted on divorce and nothing less.
However the bride price paid on her was advised to be returned as a starting point for the divorce proceedings. But Amadi argued that he and family paid N20, 000 but Gloria and family insisted it was N6, 000.

The President of the court, advised them to go back home to reach an agreement on how much was actually paid. He thereby adjourned the case to later date for further hearing

culled (Naija.com)

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Being beauty queen has changed my life –Olivia-Sandra

Olivia-Sandra Chuma is a model, two-time beauty queen and actress. She is a beauty with brains. Bubbly, positive, she loves challenges. In this interview with ADAEZE AMOS, this Mass Communication graduate speaks about life as a beauty queen.
You are the ‘Face of New Waves Nigeria’, what is it all about?
‘Face of New Waves Nigeria’ youth pageant is a competition organised to get a suitable ambassador that would assist in empowering Nigerian youths. The NGO is called New Nigerian Waves Initiative. It’s an NGO that supports youths and helps in creating skill acquisition programmes.
 Can you relive the night of the pageant?
I remember that night like it was just yesterday. There were 20 pretty ladies with lots of poise, charisma and confidence. Let me say, it was tough. I never believed I was going to win. I felt challenged when it came to beauty, perfect smiles and carriage. I was scared until it was time for the question and answer segment for the 10 finalists. In fact, I was really impressed with myself at how well I could stand and answer every question thrown at me with ease and calmness. I believe my confidence and ability to answer my questions gave me an edge over the other ladies.
 Before you became a beauty queen, you were a professional model, why did you choose a career in modeling?
Ever since I was a little girl, I have always loved entertainment, especially modelling. I saw myself as a Nigerian Tyra Banks (laughs), gracing the runway for the most top Nigerian fashion designers. As I came of age, I realised it wasn’t as easy as I thought. Though, I got runway jobs and other forms of modelling, I felt something was still missing. I was encouraged by my friends to try out beauty pageants, but I laughed my way out of it because I felt it wasn’t real but scams to extort money from young ladies.
Besides, I never saw myself as being pretty enough to compete in a beauty pageant. I won my first pageant which was ‘Two Sides Model Look’ in 2013.Was I shocked? Of course I was. My thoughts about pageants were wrong. I began having a change of mind like could this be what I had been missing. I tried again in 2014 and I didn’t win. I decided to do it again this year to know if it was really meant for me. I excelled and I’m proud to say I was initially wrong about the perception I had about pageants. I became more aware of what I want, who I am and what I stand for.
 What’s your take on beauty queens who fail to use their platforms well?
I don’t judge people and I can’t really place the reason for some of the queens not using their platforms for anything. I would say it’s more of mismanagement.
 And what have you used your platform as a beauty queen to achieve so far?
I tried as much as I can to empower our Nigerian youths by organising seminars and workshops, forums, where we sat and interacted on how we could better our lives through skill acquisition programmes. I had visited schools, educated some students on how to make the right choice in choosing a career path in life. Right now, I’m currently working on a project I call ‘Legends of Today’. It is very challenging and requires a lot of governmental support. I really don’t want to go into much detail because it’s still a working process.
 Can you reach out to mothers who don’t allow their daughters participate in beauty pageants?
Beauty pageant is a thing of honour. It is something mothers should encourage their daughters to go into. It can help a girl to gain courage, believe in herself, stand out in the crowd and also make her discover herself. It’s an experience of a lifetime. A girl learns positive things while taking part in beauty pageants. It is very educative too. Every mother knows the kind of daughter she gave birth to. I advise that the best thing is to believe in that child and know she would make you proud.
 What have you gained from being a beauty queen?
Being a beauty queen has changed my life drastically. I became more aware of what I can do, became brave and more confident. I started living a positive life, believing that every challenge comes with a reason.
 Who are you aspiring to be like in the beauty world?
This could sound like a cliché, but I would say Agbani Darego. This is because Agbani is a positive lady, a brand ambassador, she didn’t quit even after her tenure as ‘Miss World’. She has a clothing line to her name and lives a non controversial lifestyle. She multi-tasks and is very versatile. Who wouldn’t want to be like her?
 Most beauty queens dump their boyfriends once they win the diamond-studded crown. Have you dumped yours?
Wow, this question is funny. I think it’s really not necessary dumping your boyfriend because you were crowned a beauty queen. Tenure comes and go but your man will always be there for you. For me, I wasn’t in a relationship, so I thank God it never happened.
 What thrills you most about beauty pageants?
The fact that I could do it. I mean the fact that I could actually compete and win a pageant is something that thrills me till this day. You gain recognition and respect from people, especially my mum being proud of me as a queen, is mind-blowing.
 What’s your regret in life?
I don’t have regrets whatsoever. AS I said, I live a positive life now and could never have wished for a more better life.
 When you are set to attend a glamorous event, how do you dress to reflect who you are?
I try as much as I can to step out looking responsible, because I am there to represent youths of this country.
 What are some styles you won’t be caught in as a queen?
To wear sheer dresses without a proper inner wear is certainly not my style.
 What is the craziest thing a male fan has ever done to you?
The craziest thing a male fan has done to me was stalking me all the way from Lagos Island to the estate on the Mainland.
 What fashion accessory forms a larger part of your wardrobe?
My shoes, I love my shoes. They are my babies.
 What lesson has life taught you?
Life has taught me to be patient, to believe, never accept defeat, embrace challenges and turn it into positives. Life has taught me to be happy all the time and never forget where I am coming from or turn back from where I am going.
 What is your philosophy?

Live your life as if every day is going to be your last. For me, life is beautiful, I live it fabulously well.

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I don’t smoke marijuana —Don Jazzy

Nowadays, Nigerian musicians, especially those in hip-hop, are synonymous with the smoking of marijuana which they also refer to as weed, poli and some other coded names.
But one of their most prominent personalities, Don Jazzy, has come out to say that he doesn’t smoke it, and he doesn’t see why any of his colleagues, especially the upcoming ones, should.
Jazzy made his mind on the conscientious issue of marijuana smoking known through #WhenYouFinallyBlow, a list of ten tips he posted online for upcoming artists. The list is explosive, as Jazzy didn’t mince words on it. He called a spade a spade and though he said it’s meant for upcoming artists, every entertainer can learn from it.
Tip 1: Dear upcoming artists. The real job starts #WhenYouFinallyBlow.
Tip 2: #WhenYouFinallyBlow Know that there is a huge difference between carrying yourself like the new star you are and being an a*$hole.
Tip 3: #WhenYouFinallyBlow Pray against the ‘don’t you know who I am? I am a celeb’ spirit.
Tip 4: #WhenYouFinallyBlow Don’t be in a hurry to move to Lekki. It’s not that serious. Plenty fake people out here.
Tip 5: #WhenYouFinallyBlow You don’t need to smoke weed or take some next ish to help write songs. I have over 100 hits and I don’t smoke it.
Tip 6: #WhenYouFinallyBlow It will do you a lot of good to know that it won’t last forever. No be curse.
Tip 7: #WhenYouFinallyBlow to the point where you have your own company, carry your guys up with you. It’s not beans but try.
Tip 8: #WhenYouFinallyBlow Respect the legend 2face Idibia.
Tip 9: #WhenYouFinallyBlow Don’t let flying first class/private jets become a habit. U go drink garri when hits no come oh.

Tip 10: #WhenYouFinallyBlow No be everybody wey no like your song be hater. Sometimes our songs no go sweet to some people. E dey happen.

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‘Women are beautiful creatures men can’t do without’

“Another person I love so much is Noble Igwe for the spotlight he’s put on African fashion. He makes Agbada look so easy to pull off and he inspired the Danshiki trend among ladies,” she noted.
Though Nigerian ladies are known to be fashion enthusiasts, she pointed out obvious blunders some of them commit.

“I think some ladies tend to follow the trend rather than what fits their body type. One should be comfortable in whatever makes you happy and I think instagram has created that illusion,” she explained.

Toke, as she is fondly known, has decided to live life to the fullest.
“Life itself is thrilling. Waking up every day is awe-inspiring, it means I have another opportunity to touch lives and be the best I can in this world. Also, it dawned on me recently that this is my life and there is no repetition! I have decided to live it to the fullest. For the fact that I’m a woman adds to it. Women are powerful, even though we hate ourselves most of the time. Maybe because most women have self esteem issues based on upbringing, emotional abuse, peer pressure and so on. The negative thing about us being ‘strong’ as individuals is that we do not admit we need help, we would rather keep the pain and hurt we go through and this is translated into negative energy.

This ends up affecting the people we know and do not know. Why would a lady hate you on your instagram picture without even knowing you, just because you are having the attention she isn’t having. We can love ourselves more by first loving yourself because you can’t share love if you don’t know love. Accept that it is okay to be imperfect and celebrate others.
“Having said that, we are still beautiful creatures that men can’t do without and God made it so. Also, we are life nurturers. If women are given the same opportunity as men, we would do 10 times ahead or more. To be candid, I have never regretted being a woman.

“If I were to come back to this life as a woman, I wouldn’t hesitate. I enjoy the challenge of being the ‘weaker vessel’ but supporting the ‘stronger vessel’. Women are strong, resilient, life givers and we take this God-given passion to our jobs and relationships,” she said.

What has life taught this fashion icon?
“Life has taught me to be humble and kind. Humility uplifts, kindness elongates one’s life. I have also learned that God and my family are those I talk to when I’m down. Spending enough time with them alleviates sorrow or despair. Also, I would like to say that I have never hated a fellow woman, no matter what. Even when I get hate stares from some that I don’t even know because I look good and drive a beautiful car, I laugh and just do my own thing,” she giggled.

This style aficionado still cherishes some fond memories of her childhood.

“God bless my parents. I had the best childhood one can think of. I still remember the fun parties my dad threw almost every weekend. I got a chance to rock ‘Ijo Shina’ and got money from my dad and his friends (laughs). I was and still is a fan of Shina Peters,” she reminisced.

What books does she read?
“I rather prefer reading newspapers. That is the closest to knowing what is going on in my country. Aside that, I love entertainment journals and magazines because of the kind of job I do. Ebony Magazine (to appreciate black people all over the world), Genevieve Magazine because of their spotlight on women,” she saidd.

Talking about mentoring, this class lady who of course is some people’s mentor has “Mo Abudu as my mentor. Aside the fact that she is a woman who also understands the craft of journalism, she is strong and successful in an industry that is male-dominated. It takes a lot of self worth, passion, dedication and perseverance to be all she is today,” she said.

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Couples are expected to enjoy each other

As far as evidences have made clear, most marriages, these days, don’’t last long before they lose grabs on the old zing and zest. The thing is as soon as the children start coming in, all cares about love and romance disappears almost with a fervent speed. Generally, it appears once marriages are consummated, the players gradually relapse into their different shells with some feeling of self accomplishment and end up in different covens even though they still live under the same roof. They consequently become co-tenants who merely engage in some sex contracts that come at random.

But this is not supposed to be the situation. Love is not supposed to be lost at any point in time in homes and couples are expected to enjoy each other for as long as they live and as long as the marriages last. Did I hear you say it is not an easy task? But yes, it is. Couples are supposed to wax stronger and stronger in love no matter the age and the number of years they have been together. All they need do over and over is to ignite the dying love flame before it finally goes into extinction. It is not a matter of shifting roles this time, it is the roles of the two players involved. But without being immodest, this is basically the duty of the woman. Yes, women are to take this lead because they are the ones who easily lose their guards as soon as they are married. This is not exonerating the men but it’’s just to engage the women in a challenge, after all, they are the ones who lay claim on the home and this is firmly grounded by the holy books. As far as the Bible is concerned, a wise woman is the one who builds her home with her hands while the foolish one pulls it down with her own hands. So, this challenge is simply for any wise woman who will be set to redeem her home from losing its love fervour.

We’’ll take off first with these questions; how much of yourself do you flaunt at home? What do you wear when you are at home and how do you cloth yourself when you are about to sleep, I mean when you are in bed with him? Let us be frank with ourselves, it is absolutely wrong for you to be covering yourself up with whatever cloth or dress at home either in the name of religion or whatever. Come to think of it, if you don’’t flaunt yourself at him who else would you give the privilege and by the way, what the hell are you covering when so many girls are out there in all their nakedness to catch his attention. This is not an issue subjected to some fire branded prayer, it is what you can do, so do not engage God in such trivial things, He definitely has better things to attend to. Don’’t forget that it is this same man who came hovering all over you some years back, falling head over heels in love with you. He could not resist you then and so were you, so why the change in all of this, maybe you should sleep over this and take these words of advice:

Bare it all: Sex is a vital issue in marriage and it must bring pleasure all the time to couples. They are to look forward to it every day and its thought should send hot sensations down their spines. Although psychologists believe seeing is believing, it is also retentive. Whatever one sees stays longer in one’’s memory than anything. This means one paramount thing you must do as a woman is to imbibe the habit of leaving nothing to imagine when it comes to clothing. Do not wear any serious outfit whenever he is around. Honestly, it is an abomination for you to have your pants on when you are at home. Whether it is time to sleep or not, try and bare it all for him to get his mind fixed on you. If you must wear anything, make it a see-through outfit and once the kids are far away from sight, let him feed his eyes on you long enough to make him lose control. Some advantages in this are as follow;

*It draws his attention to you and that particular area.

*It is the best way deep intimacy and sex suggestions can be made.

*It offers a strip tease feeling which of course aids good sexual intercourse. This is not just for the man but also for the woman. The more your laps touch, the more excited you get and the more fun you are bound to have in that session.

*It adds the element of challenge to your sex life. Imagine if you have never been caught in this habit before, your spouse is instantly challenged and a memorable night or session is bound to take place.

*One other accessory you need add to yourself is the waist bead; it is an ingredient that will spice up your sexual life.

*In addition, if you are sleeping without your panties on, you are both freer with each other. Not only is the possibility of the voyage very easily, it can be embarked upon as many times as possible.

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Upcoming Artiste Must Be Careful Of Women — Kollington Ayinla

Alhaji Kollington Ayinla is not a new name in the Nigerian music industry. in fact, he is regarded as a veteran in the Fuji genre of music.

He ruled the industry with his hit tracks in the late 80s and early 90s and was seen as the main rival of late Barrister Ayinde Marshal.

He recently told Vanguard that he has no regret being a musician, but feels sorry for himself for not being able to further his education to the university level.

“I have no regret being a musician but I regret that I didn’t have university education. My children are all educated and some have even ventured into music; but into hip-hop. I may be privileged in another lifetime,” he told Vanguard.

He warned that up and coming artistes to be careful of women in their career. “Many young artistes should understand that being focused and dedicated are the only key to success. They should also be careful with women.”

culled from Vanguard

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There is no point in marriage, Don Jazzy finally reveals

Sequel to E-News’ story on why it seems strange that former partners, Don Jazzy and D’Banj, are not yet married or single parents, despite all their colleagues already in one or both categories, Jazzy has come out to speak definitively about marriage for the first time.

And unlike all these years when he beats about the bush regarding marriage, he hit the nail on the head this time around when he was asked specific questions about his marriage plans while in Mauritius to perform at the Multichoice Africa Content Showcase.

On when he’ll get married: “I have absolutely no idea.”
On if he already has children: “I don’t know if I have a child somewhere. Someone might come to say I have a 9-year-old boy and we do a test and it is mine.”


And then letting his guard down, he made the disclosure that bests describes his mindset on marriage. “If I have a child before wedding, then I won’t get married anymore because there is no point.”

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Writivism gets new coordinators

Kagayi Peter, renowned Ugandan poet and lawyer and Valerie Bah, writer and photographer have been named Writivism Coordinators for Anglophone and Francophone Africa respectively. They are joined by Roland Niwagaba, tech-preneur and IT professional and Emmanuel Kwezi Tabaro, Zoology graduate and youth opinion leader as Communications Manager and Administrator respectively.

The four replace Bwesigye Bwa Mwesigire, Rebecca Rwakabukoza and Lewis Ainebyona who have been sole program director, communications manager and sales assistant respectively. Bwesigye is now in charge of Fundraising and Partnerships at the three-year pan African literary initiative, joining fellow co-founders Naseemah Mohamed and Kyomuhendo Ateenyi on the Board of Directors in charge of Management and Finance respectively.

The new team officially started work on September 1st, 2015 with a Miles Morland Foundation-sponsored internship for some members of staff at Storymoja in Nairobi, Kenya.

“As co-founders of the Center for African Cultural Excellence (CACE), we are very excited about this new team, made up of individuals who have been involved in our programing in the past. Their experiences as workshop participants, mentees, festival volunteers among other roles inform their enthusiasm and passion towards the vision and mission of Writivism and other projects of the organization” Naseemah Mohamed, Director (Management) who led the recruitment drive said.

The new team will be in charge of recruiting supporting volunteers and other people to help them carry out their duties. Jacky Kemigisa and Elizabeth Kitego have

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Why You Should Consider Dating A Yoruba Guy Ahead Of Other Tribes

Well, this article would probably touch a few nerves but I’d like to give a caveat here, I’m not a tribalist! Needless to say, the truth must be said sometimes even if it doesn’t sound pleasing to the ears. If you intend to get through this article to the end, please come along with your sense of humour and if not, you may want to consider stopping here.

The bitter truth is that if you’re not dating a Yoruba guy, you’re definitely not dating yet and if you’re the prayerful type, you seriously need to consider changing your prayer points.

And yes, I’ve said it and you’d probably agree with me when you’re done with this.

Let’s be clear on one thing here, I’m not saying this because I’m a yoruba man, (maybe just a little) but I’ve got to defend myself and my fellow yoruba brothers who have constantly been put in a bad light on different social media fora.

I am a Yoruba man from Ekiti state and the various yoruba men I know are exceptions from the typical stereotypes people have of yoruba men. I am proud of the tribe I come from and everyone would agree to the intelligent, progressive and fun loving nature of Yoruba people. If you’re looking for more reasons to date a Yoruba guy, come along with me.

Family Values
You’d hardly meet a Yoruba guy that doesn’t have high standards when it comes to family. One thing you’re assured of when you date a Yoruba guy (and if you’re lucky enough to marry one) is that you would come first always in his life. What makes this even more sweet is the fact that he would also place as much premium on your family members as he does on his, can life be anymore sweeter?

Respectful
Obviously, no tribe does it better when it comes to respect than your typical Yoruba dude. You’re assured of his love and respect anywhere, anytime.

Highly Fertile
Yoruba dudes have been proven to be very fertile as research has shown that Yorubas have the highest twin births in the world. So, if you love twins so much and you’re thinking of getting pregnant from a guy’s first burst, you sure know what to do.

Generous
If you mix with the right crowd of Yoruba guys, you will find out that we are generous to a fault. A typical Yoruba guy would go out of his way to spoil you silly with no care in the world of the cost implications. Be sure of one thing, he’d carry on with this if you end up saying ‘I do’ to him.

Romantic To A Fault
One of the reasons why girls may find it difficult to say no to a Yoruba man is the fact that you’d hardly find a Yoruba man that doesn’t know how to make his woman feel on top of the world. Yoruba guys know how to give you that good massage when you’re back from a hard day’s work at the office. He would treat you to romantic candle lit dinners and take you on trips to exotic locations you can only dream of. See why he ranks ahead of guys from other tribes?

Sugar-coated Mouth
Another thing you’re bound to love us for is our love for flattery. Yoruba dudes would sweet talk you and make you feel on top of the world which of course is something every woman wants. If you want a man that would make you feel like you’re ‘walking over the moon’, you sure know where to get it from.

To top it all, Yoruba guys are some of the most caring, attentive, patient, understanding and humble guys you will ever meet. Guys from other tribes should however not take this as an insult but take a cue from what makes the girls follow them.

And don’t worry if you’re dating guys from other tribes, I’d surely consider writing on what makes those tribes thick too! But in the meantime, if you’ve got a Yoruba guy; you’re one of the luckiest girls in the world and if you don’t have one, consider the saying ‘the taste of the pudding is in the eating’. Get yourself one today!

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