KISS DANIEL DESCRIBES OLAMIDE AS ‘OVER TALENTED’

One of the fasted-rising artistes in Nigeria, Kiss Daniel, has hailed top Nigerian rapper, Olamide, who he says he pays respect to.

The G-Worldwide act said the rapper has music in his veins, which is why he drops hit singles on a regular basis.

According to Kiss Daniel, who gain prominence in the Nigerian music industry in 2014, “To say the fact, Olamide, is over talented; too much music in his vein. ‘EyanMayWeather’, my favourite, don’t stop.”

Read More

7 Skills You Should Master Before You Turn 30

Set yourself up for success later in life by getting good at these things early.

Invest money thoughtfully in your 20s and the miracle of compound interest means a modest amount saved early will yield a much larger payout later. The same can be said of skills. Learn to be a better conversationalist early, for instance, and you might meet and charm just the right person to land the entry-level job of your dreams, which could lead to a another great career break, and so on ...

So what are the skills most likely to pay the greatest dividends over time if you master them before you hit 30? Several threads on question-and-answer site Quora have asked just this, soliciting advice from the more experienced for young professionals hoping to set themselves up for success later on. An examination of a host of answers reveals a few common themes. According to the wisdom of Quora, these are the skills you'd really benefit from acquiring in your 20s:

1. Coping with uncertainty

You might think that as you get older, the chaos of your life will go away and you'll get to live with more certainty about the future. Maybe a little, but many respondents caution that uncertainty never goes away, so you should get comfortable with it now.

"Accept that you will never have anything figured out," writes copywriter Joe Choi, as "it's near impossible to plan where you'll be a few years." Respondent Ayushi Aswal agrees. She puts "how to manage uncontrollable situations" at the top of her list of most necessary skills.

2. Communicating with grace

You've been using words since you were a toddler, but that doesn't mean you will master the art of communication by the time you turn 20. Most of us don't. But don't let yourself enter your fourth decade without getting a handle on clear, compelling, and polite communication, insist a number of answers.

"Think about ways to challenge yourself, and tweak how you write an email or behave in a meeting," suggests one anonymous but extremely popular answer. It offers a few more specific ideas: "Don't hit 'send' immediately after composing a note. Instead, give yourself a beat or two, then reread the email, make edits, and then hit 'send.' Or, during your next team meeting, resist talking about your idea or opinion right off the bat. Instead, count to five, and if you still feel like you have something relevant to contribute, speak up."

Entrepreneur Brian Bain agrees. "How to communicate and interact professionally," tops his list of skills you should master in your 20s. "Look around and notice how the ability to freely and easily talk to people helps those who have already crossed their 20s, and how the lack thereof makes things unnecessarily difficult for some," cautions technologist Sugandha Banga. "No matter how knowledgeable you are, people are not going to take your work seriously unless you know at least the basics of holding up a decent conversation."

3. Respecting those who are different from you

"I think it's easy to judge people based on your own definitions of success and a meaningful life, without recognizing that everybody has their own definition," warns designer Francis Chen. "Everybody is different, and has different pathways to life. Respect that, and respect yourself."

Consultant Michael Hoffman concurs: "Put yourself in the other person's shoes," he instructs. "Think about how they will perceive what you are communicating or doing. Without understanding context and perspective, we run the risk of ... creating problems rather than solving them; and appearing blunt and unsympathetic." Several responses make a special point of noting the need to learn to respect the opposite sex.

4. Asking for what you want

You need to respect others, but you need to respect yourself and your own potential as well. To do that fully, you need to get comfortable asking for the things you want in life. "The ability to ask is the easiest, most underutilized skill to catapult your career," says the same much up-voted anonymous answer. "The old adage is true: 'If you don't ask, you don't receive.' Many careerists don't ask to pitch their idea, for a raise or promotion, a bigger sales deal, or to take on more responsibility. When this happens--or doesn't happen, rather--you're far less likely to find challenge, meaning, and reward in your work."

Copywriter Joe Cassandra writes something similar: "Learn to negotiate now. Earnings compound over time." How do you learn to ask? Start small, the anonymous answer suggests: "Try practicing in non-work related contexts. At the farmer's market, you could ask a vendor for a lower price on the asparagus; at home, you could ask your partner to attend dance lessons; on the street, you could ask a stranger, 'How are you?'"

5. Being resilient

No matter how smart, talented, and ambitious you are, things won't always go your way (especially once you've left the cocoon of school and your parents' protection). Learn how to cope with setbacks early and they'll discourage you less.

"Your 20s is a time when most are relatively free of the responsibilities that will increase into your 30s and 40s," writes recruiter Carolyn Cho. "This is a great time to experiment, fail, and bounce back. Learn how to ride out failure and persevere. Life is full of challenges. The 20s are a great time to toughen up and start teaching yourself how to be emotionally and mentally resilient enough to weather both the joys and hardships to come."

6. Spending your time and money wisely

You may be relatively footloose and fancy-free in your 20s, but that doesn't mean you should squander the decade. It's a truth that applies to both time and money. "Time is a precious commodity, and you start to realize that increasingly into your mid- to late 20s," Cho also writes. So learn to choose the people and activities you spend your time on carefully. "Focus your time and energy on things that will help you grow and give," agrees Chen.

Many respondents also noted that while spending on mind-expanding travel or education is great if you can swing it, you also need to at least start to get a handle on your finances. Bain includes "how to create and stick to a budget," on his list of most important skills for young people, for instance.

7. Cooking

Looking for something a little more focused and practical? You'd be surprised how many people suggested learning to cook. These respondents claim it's a great skill to master that will greatly improve your life for decades. (If you like to eat good food and don't have an unlimited budget, I personally can't agree with this one enough.)

"Most people live solo or away from families, so knowing how to cook becomes critical to maintain a balanced and healthy lifestyle," writes engineer Gurvinder Arora. "I have developed a lot of patience thanks to cooking. It also helps to impress the ladies."

What skills would you add to this list?

Read More

Wizkid share with Ebenezer Obey at this year’s Ovation Red Carol.

Wizkid will share the stage with Ebenezer Obey at this year’s Ovation Red Carol.

Another edition of the annual Ovation Christmas Carol is set to hold this weekend in Lagos.

The headlining acts for this year’s edition include pop star Wizkid, Omawumi and veteran musician Chief Ebenezer Obey.

The event will hold on Sunday, December 20, 2015 at the Eko Hotel Convention Center,Victoria Island,Lagos.

This will be the first time Wizkid will share the same stage with Ebenezer Obey. He has already shared a stage with his contemporary, King Sunny Ade and performed with the legend.

Read More

2face Idibia to perform at KADAMFEST 2015.

General Pype, KSB and 2face Idibia at KADAMFEST.

Over the weekend, the maiden edition of the Kaduna Music Festival (KADAMFEST) took place.

The two-day event was declared open by President Muhamadu Buhari on Saturday December 12, 2015 with Ebuka Obi and comedian, Chi Gurl as hosts.

The festival witnessed performances by top Nigerian pop stars including 2face Idibia, MI Abaga, Ice Prince, Reminisce, D’ija, KSB, General Pype and others.

Read More

Jay Z visited the St. Louis Rams in their locker room.

Jay Z visited the St. Louis Rams in their locker room.

Jay Z visited the St. Louis Rams in their locker room after the team won against the Detroit Lions.

According to HotNewHipHop.com, Jay Z joined the St. Louis Rams as they celebrated the end to their losing streak with the team’s win against the Detroit Lions.

The final score for the game was 21-14, with Roc Nation Sports signee Todd Gurley who played the running back scored two of the teams touchdowns.

During the locker room pow wow, the official Twitter account for the Rams shared a handful of photos with Jay Z and the team.

In addition to Gurley, other athletes on the Roc Nation Sports roster include Robinson Cano, Skylar Diggins, Kevin Durant, Geno Smith, and Victor Cruz.

Read More

Police invade Lil Wayne’s Miami Beach mansion

American superstar rapper, Lil Wayne’s Miami Beach mansion was invaded by the police on November 3 to seize properties in order to pay off debts he owes a private jet company.

Life & Style magazine reports that when the policemen arrived, Wayne’s security refused to let them in.

The Miami Beach Police explained to reporters that they were there to seize certain assets inside the house because Wayne had not paid a $2 million judgment to Signature Group, a jet leasing company.

Wayne also owes the company $200k in lawyer’s fees.

According to the court order, obtained by the mag, the Miami-Dade County Sheriff’s deputies were allowed to break the locks of the house and doors if necessary to gain entry and confiscate sizable assets.

Reports say, Wayne wasn’t home, he was in Los Angeles to attend Ace of Diamonds strip club Monday night.

Wayne reportedly has $30 million worth of art in the mansion, and cops took some of the pieces.

Sources also say cops brought along someone who valued the items inside the house so they could figure out what to seize.

Deputies also seized several plaques but it’s unclear if they took a prized plaque he got for “Tha Carter” albums.

Read More

Flavour to get married soon.

Famous Highlife singer, Flavour has revealed that he will be getting married soon.

Flavour who has two children from two different beauty queens said this during an interview with Hip TV.

When asked about marriage, he said “I’m getting married soon” after laughing.

Flavour might be singing a different tune about marriage now, but only last month he explained why settling down now will be a bad idea for him.
“Marriage is a serious thing” he said, “it’s a decision that when you make it’s like you are in it or you are not so you don’t need to make the wrong decision. That’s the most important thing” he told My Joy Online.
“If you want to marry, for marrying sake then it doesn’t make sense. You are not defining marriage and because of the kind of job we do, I hardly stay at home so where am I going to have the time to give my family? So it is very difficult” he further stated.

Read More

I’m still always going to be a diva - Mariah Carey

Veteran R&B star, Mariah Carey has bragged that she won’t change her ways and that she’ll remain a diva just like she’s often associated with the word.

“I’m still always going to be a diva in certain ways, and I don’t mean that in the bad sense of the word,” the 45-year-old, who is directing and starring in the new Hallmark Channel Movie ‘A Christmas Melody’, told Entertainment Tonight.
“I just mean, like, if there’s a makeup artist there and they don’t mind touching me up while I’m directing,” she explained.

Although this may be her official directorial debut, the mother-of-two revealed, “I’ve been directing so much of my own work for a really long time. A lot of music videos that I didn’t take credit for.”

But though she’s often called out for being high-maintenance, Mariah doesn’t seem to care. “Why not just be yourself?” she told the site.

Read More

How to succeed in entertainment -Jenny O

Broadcaster and musician, Jenny O, has adviced entertainers who are yet to succeed on how to become success­ful.
When E-News asked her what she feels are the determinants that can make an artist successful in Nige­ria, she said, “First is the proper ap­proach to people. Some care little how they relate with people and tend to come off very annoying and rude. Well, it’s not a good idea if you wish to stay relevant and successful in the music industry.

“Another factor that should be considered also is what you’re putting out, whether a song or video. Ensure it’s something the audience would find appealing. Having faith and trusting God go a long way too.”

Read More

‘I’ve not seen my husband for 10 years’

• My husband abandoned me and the children. He got a job in Owerri 12 years ago and stopped calling me since 10 years. All efforts to reach him proved abortive — Wife

A housewife, Bose Ayinde, on Tuesday told an Igando Customary Court, Lagos, that she had not seen nor heard from her husband for the past 10 years. Bose, a 39-year-old trader, told the court that her husband, Nureni, with whom she had three children in their 18-year-old marriage, abandoned her for 10 years. 

“My husband abandoned me and the children; he got a job in Owerri 12 years ago and stopped calling me since 10 years. All efforts to reach him proved abortive. “I always travel to Abeokuta in Ogun to see his parents and informed them that their son was no longer calling me. “They always tell me that I should be patience that he will call me that he used to communicate with them. “I used to beg them to give me his new phone number so that I can call him but they refused,’’ she said. The mother of three accused her husband who was not in court of lack of care.

 “I have been the one paying the house rent and paying the children school fees, he did not call to ask for the children nor visit home for once. “His parent never call nor ask for the children. Anytime I go to them for their assistance in their granddaughters school fees, they always tell me to wait that my husband will soon come.’’ Bose pleaded with the court to dissolve the 18-year-old marriage because she was no longer in love and wanted to move on with her life.

 “I am no longer in love with him and besides, I want to move on with my life, she said. The President of the court, Mr Adegboyega Omilola, has adjourned the case .

Read More

‘She is an unrepentant drunkard, smoker’

• She has since grown to be an unrepentant smoker and drunkard. They know her in all the beer parlours in Iseyin here. She does not have respect for her marital status or the integrity of our children. The situation has forced me to chase her out, but now I want the dissolution to be formalised —Husband

For being an unrepentant drunkard and smoker, a middle-aged man, Kunle Isalu, has urged a Grade “C” Customary Court in Iseyin, Oyo state, to dissolve his 10-year marriage with his wife. The wife, Lara, with whom he already has four children, developed the bad habits over the years, following her bad friends. The children are eight, six, four and two respectively. While explaining his ordeal, he said: “Lara has always been a very good wife until of recent when she started keeping a bad company of friends. 

“The first day I came home from a month’s journey was when I first noticed that her mouth smelled of alcohol and cigarette. “She has since grown to be an unrepentant smoker and drunk; she now drinks at will to the extent that they know her in all the beer parlours in Iseyin here. “She does not even have respect for her marital status or the integrity of our children; the situation has forced me to chase her out, but now I want the dissolution to be formalized. 

“All our children are still with me and I’m sure they don’t want to go with her. I really can’t explain what the problem is. “We have summoned various family meetings to make her change, but all was to no avail. “I want her to drop my name after this dissolution, my lord.” The President of the court, Raimi Oyegbenle, while reacting to the appeal, expressed his displeasure with the woman’s absence in court, in spite of series of court summons. 

After serving a fresh summon on Lara, compelling her to appear in court on the next adjourned date, he adjourned further hearing on the matter

Read More

How to curb nudity in our films –Ali Nuhu

Talented Kannywood star, Ali Nuhu, had attracted millions of fans long before he started featuring in Nollywood movies. He talks about his principles, the importance of cinema and the role of NFVCB in addressing piracy and nudity in this interview 
You are a versatile actor; we’ve seen you assume roles from various cultures. How challenging can that be?
I have done a lot of roles either as an Igbo prince or Benin prince. As an actor if you are given a script and you intend to deliver, what is expected of you is to carry out an extensive research to be sure of what you are getting into and also, get someone from that tribe to put you through.
You could even get some words that you can slip in while you are acting so you can convince the person watching you are from that part and that is what I normally do. When I came into Nollywood, a lot of the actors, the producers and directors were very friendly, they really embraced me and that made things easier for me because they always put me through and that is why you see me interpret those roles like that.
What was the reaction of your Kannywood fans when you decided to expand your coast to Nollywoood?
Initially when I started out, there were complaints here and there because people didn’t know what they will really see before the movies are released but along the line, the movies started coming and there were some negative comments especially when it comes to kissing and bedroom scenes because of the diverse cultures and traditions that we have.
The first thing I take into consideration is that I am a Muslim and Islamic actions are being judged according to intentions, this is a profession, we are only acting, it is not like it is the real thing we do it is a make believe thing so anybody who thinks we are going extra mile in the kissing or bedroom scenes should understand that there are people there and certainly nothing will happen.
When it comes to choice of roles, I am very sensitive because I take some things into consideration. I don’t go to the extreme but then at the same time I don’t just play every role that is offered to me, I try to control that and what I try to make my fans understand is that for an actor, you are supposed to act in whatever language that you can speak or you can communicate in.
If you are given a role to play in whatever language you should branch out and do that because this is what shows that you are a versatile actor. For most of my fans they were able to understand these things and from my own part I was able to control some things so that they don’t go out of hand.
There is a lot going on in the industry right now, there seem to be a shift in the quality of productions compared to when we first started, but there is still much work to be done. How can the industry be better improved?
A lot of things have to be put in place in the entire industry that includes Nollywood and Kannywood. I am talking about putting up things like good marketing structures. When these good marketing structures are put in place, I am very sure these movies will make more money than they already have and when they make more money, you won’t have to tell a film maker go and perfect your job, the person on his or her own accord would go ahead to make sure he masters his job because we have the talents.
If you take a look at when the industry started out, it was more or less a trial and error venture but with time, we now have graduates from various fields of film making in Nigeria. This means people have accepted film making and its various field as a profession and they are ready to go for it.
All we need is capital and talking about this capital, you wouldn’t say the government or an organisation must lend you money for you to do quality movie, all that is required is when you have a good marketing structure, the movies will surely turn in money and when they turn in money you will be able to perfect and make your craft better.
Are you saying the distribution framework of the Censors Board is not delivering on its mandate as it should?
Yes, indeed the censorship board did present a pattern of marketing but then if there are no structures to carry it out then it won’t be effective. For instance, you say the marketers are going to buy sales from the Censors Board, fine they pay money, you buy sales. As you are buying the sales, what guarantees are you going to give them that their jobs are not going to be pirated or if they are pirated you will stand up for them? If there is no security like that who goes for it that is the first problem.
Secondly, the movies we sell where do we go to get them from? We need to have shops or sale outlets across the country where these movies can be sold, where people can access them but if we don’t have this why will somebody go and spend their money buying sales from you and you don’t do these things for them. I think this is where issues came up and the whole thing just crashed.
At the rate at which things are going in the industry, we seem not to be able to separate marketing from piracy, wherever marketing is mentioned the next word you hear is piracy. In your assessment what do you think could be done to cut down the menace? In almost every country where movies are produced, pirates are there but there is a way to cut it down.
If we have enough cinemas where all our movies can run in, I am sure this whole piracy saga can be cut down. Before the movies go out and gets pirated or before people go to the theatre to dub, a lot of people must have watched these movies in the cinema and when they watch these movies in the cinema, the distributors get their profits, they get royalties, they pay the producers and everything is settled but when you don’t have sufficient cinemas because presently these movies run In just a few cinemas, they will be forced to be taken out of the cinema before everybody goes to watch it why, because other movies are on the pipeline waiting. When you take the movie out of the cinema before you know it you want to put it on DVD and putting it on that DVD is giving room to the pirates; that is the problem.
If there is any organisation that is interested in undertaking marketing of Nigerian movies generally, I am talking about Nollywood, Kannywood, I think what they should put in place is cinemas. For instance we have in-house cinemas there is Ozone, there is Silverbird but we need to build more structures at different places. When you talk about northern Nigeria, Kano is the only place that has just one cinema. A multiplex with about six halls is not enough for northern Nigeria because people of the north have had the cinema culture even before now so I think we need more cinemas. Not until we get more cinemas we will not be able to talk about tackling this piracy issue.
But with the issue of insecurity and people trying to avoid crowded places, the cinema culture seems to be dwindling especially in the North or don’t you think so?
Security wise everybody is conscious and everybody is careful about where to go and what to do but when we talk about multiplexes, multiplexes are mostly located in malls and these malls are highly secured, there is a very good security system there so I don’t think we have a problem going to the cinema in Nigeria. If you take a look at our cultural norms in the industry and the age-long stance of the Censors Board, there seems to be a defect. Recently, there have been some Indian Hausa translations and those films contain some unprintable scenes.
As a professional, does it in any way affect your mode of distribution?
Those Indian movies that are translated in Hausa, they are dubbed in Hausa. I wouldn’t really say they affect us directly but talking about the Kano state censorship board, there is a new executive secretary which I think is going to make things better. It is a thing of worry that your own home made movies come you don’t pass them because a lady is wearing a jean trouser but when an Indian movie is brought that is translated in Hausa and the lady wears a bikini, it passes. What were you shying away from, nakedness, nakedness is right there so why don’t you take that into consideration but when you talk they will tell you they are Indians that is their tradition.
That is not Indian tradition, tell them to do Indian tradition and bring to you, that is what I think should happen. It is really a problem when it comes to that, it is like you are not encouraging your own people, for instance people produce 100 movies and then you decide to cut it into 50 movies then the industry begins to face a problem because people go out of work, secondly when these movies are dubbed, go into the market people buy them and the rate at which they buy them affects the quantities of our own home-made movies people buy. So the question is, are you promoting your own or are you trying to demote their own?
What advice would you proffer?
Ask these people to get a permit from the owners of these jobs because I know what it takes to get the rightful ownership of a movie, sound dubbing it and releasing it. If they do the normal thing they do, you won’t get more than ten or five of such films in a year released into the market.
Nudity has become a big issue in the Nigerian film industry, even from the posters we see indecent exposure yet children watch these films. How best can this issue be addressed?
There are no quality movies where you have such things but you see, the industry is dissected in its own way. When you watch such kind of movies, look at the faces in the movies they are not the faces you want to see in movies. What I will advise the National Film and Video Censors Board to do is to really take that into consideration because take it or leave it, movies influence what the society does.
The way people dress; they look at what actors wear in movies and they say they want to copy from them so automatically even little kids will tell you I have seen this person praying in this film I want to pray so if that person makes love in that film they will tell like to make love because they want to have a taste of what that person has done. Honestly it is a thing of worry the Censors Board should do something about it.
At some point, most Nigerians especially ladies, preferred Gollywood movies to Nigerian films, would you say that is still the case?
They used to but I don’t think that it is existing presently because the advantage Gollywood movies had was that they started out the new pattern of movies, movies we make for cinema before Nigerians picked up but presently, Nigerians are into serious cinema kind of movies, for instance we have October 1, 30 Days in Atlanta, The Meeting and a host of other movies.
These are movies that are good for consumption for anybody, any home, you can take your family to the theatre to watch because they are the right kind of movies we should be making. Maybe if you go to the cinema frequently you will testify that the preference for Gollywood movies is no longer in existence; it used to be.
How do you manage scandals?

Scandals are always a part of the profession whether you are a footballer musician, athlete or an actor; it is a part of the whole thing. What you should try to do is keep your head low, let your job do the talking. Do a good job leave and the audience to decide for you, you don’t have to go into twitter or Instagram war with your colleagues to make your presence felt. That is what I will advise celebrities to do, that is what I normally adopt

Read More

15 invaluable dressing tips

1. 1. Fit is king – The most dramatic im­provement you can make in your style is to make sure everything fits impeccably. Most guys wear clothes that are too large. Make sure everything you wear is almost hugging the shape of your body – without being tight. Bad fit is an epidemic. The Kinowear Bible shows you how to avoid the “bad fit disease”.
2. Keep it simple – You want a ward­robe that looks great on you, but don’t over­do it. Don’t wear more than three pieces of jewelry or more than three colors. Don’t dress like a rock star unless you’re in a band. If you want to be flashy, a simpler but stylish look would be sporting a black striped dress shirt with a white blazer, a dark pair of jeans, a dressy belt, and your sharpest dress shoes. You could also add a flashy watch or a simple accessory like an interesting necklace, but nothing more.
3. Change the way you see casual – Casual doesn’t have to be boring. Have fun with collared shirts, or take some inspira­tion from those who approach casual a bit differently.
4. Pay attention to your supporting pieces – Some sweaters are lean and others are big and chunky. The first rule of thumb is that your top and bottom halves need to match. If you’re wearing a big, chunky, rugged fisherman knit sweater, your bot­tom needs to be rugged, too. Don’t wear a fisherman’s sweater with a beautiful silk-and-wool suit pant. Instead, wear it with something as casual as cargos or jeans, or dress it up with a Harris tweed blazer.
5. Never go shopping alone – Most of the time, it’s tough to trust the sales people because they usually work for commission. Shop with a friend who will give you their honest opinion.
6. Stay a notch above – Don’t overdo it to a fault, but dare to take some risks. It’s always better to be a little bit overdressed than underdressed in any setting. All you have to do is think about where and who you’re going to be with and just step it up one notch. But make sure you’re not bet­ter dressed than someone who is more im­portant in a certain setting, like your boss.
7. Never underestimate the power of details – The last thing on is usually the first thing noticed. So mind the details instead of throwing together the main parts of your outfit. “Details” can include a scarf, a subtle pocket square, or the way you tie your tie knot.
8. Invest in a superb pair of shoes – If it’s one thing that women will notice, it’s your shoes. Especially how clean and sharp they look. It’s easy to wash and press the rest of your clothes to keep them looking new, but most guys disregard their shoes. Show that you’re a man of taste by getting a great pair of shoes and keeping them in pristine condition.
9. Fashion Tees with logos – When you’re going around with a big logo on your shirt, you risk looking like a walking billboard. Lose the lame Coca-Cola shirt and go for a classic v-neck tee or some­thing artsy.
10. Disregard trends – Beware of buy­ing something just because it’s “in” right now – stick to what you truly like. A lot of people rush to get in on the latest trend and end up with a bunch of clothes they don’t wear. It’s better to learn to build a versatile and timeless wardrobe first – then bring in your own twists with some of the new fashion. This one tip will save you so much money
11. Don’t be a sucker for brand names – Don’t be a Patrick Bateman. Be­fore you decide to purchase an item, ask yourself if you are buying it simply be­cause of the brand name or because you love the quality and style. Ask yourself, “Would I buy this if there was no logo on it?”
12. Continually cultivate your image – Invest more time and money into your image. Cultivate your fashion sense. Your style is a huge mode of communication, and is worth caring for as much as your education, career, and relationships. Sign up for our free crash course on knowing your own style. Oscar Schoffler, longtime fashion editor of Esquire once said, “Never underestimate the power of what you wear. After all, there’s just a small bit of yourself sticking out at the collar and cuff. The rest of the world sees what you drape on your frame.”
13. Ask for real feedback – Most of your friends and family aren’t going to go out of their way to tell you what looks bad. You have to ask for it. In fact, ask anyone and everyone you trust to tell you the truth. Ask your hairstylist, ask your best friend, ask your mother!
14. Upgrade your shave – Even if your fashion is golden, an unkempt beard can be an attraction killer. Achieve a perfect shave by trying a shave brush and old-fashioned double-edged razor.
15. Experiment with style – The only way you’ll really learn, is if you go out there and try new things. I make an effort to try something completely out of my comfort zone whenever I’m at a store – many times you’ll end up lov­ing something you never thought you would. If you make mistakes, life goes on. So many guys are afraid to express themselves through their style, don’t be one of them.

Read More

‘She sends thugs to beat me’

• My wife always sends thugs to lay ambush and beat me anytime we fight at home. I’m afraid they might kill me one of these days —Husband

• You don’t divorce a pregnant woman because you do not know what will happen to the baby. The court will continue with the hearing of the case after the delivery of the baby —Court

A trader, Benjamin Orjika, has dragged his pregnant wife to an Igando Customary Court in Lagos, Lagos State, accusing her of threatening his life. Forty-five-year-old Benjamin, who is seeking the dissolution of his 14-year-old marriage, told the court that his wife, Patience, wanted to kill him by sending thugs to beat him. “My wife always sends thugs to lay ambush and beat me anytime we fight at home. “I’m afraid they might kill me one of these days,” he alleged. The petitioner described his wife as a troublesome woman, who always made his life miserable by fighting and raining curses on him. “My wife is a troublemaker; she doesn’t have respect for me and is fond of slapping me anytime we have a misunderstanding. “She doesn’t regard me as her husband and he loves commanding me as if I am her son or younger brother,” Orjika said. Orjika, however, begged the court to dissolve their marriage, adding that he was no longer in love with his wife. The respondent, 40-year-old Patience, also a trader, consented to the dissolution of the marriage, saying she was also fed up with the marriage. “In 2007, I came to this court asking for the dissolution of our marriage, but the court called our family members and they settled our differences. “But since then, our marriage has not worked out well. It’s been hell on earth as my husband made our home uncomfortable for me,” she said. Patience, a mother of two, denied sending thugs to beat her husband, saying she could not do such a thing. The court president, Mr R.I. Adeyeri, told the petitioner to wait for his wife to put to bed before continuing hearing on the case. “You don’t divorce a pregnant woman because you do not know what will happen to the baby. “The court will continue with the hearing of the case after the delivery of the baby,” he said. Adeyeri, however, urged the couple to maintain peace

Read More

‘My wife is having affairs with many men’

• She detests her step children, she does not give them food and she once poured hot water on my first son and also beat my second son to stupor-Husband —Wife

An Igando Customary Court in Lagos has dissolved a six-year marriage over heavy drinking habit and adultery. The President of the court, Mr Rasak Adeyeri, said all efforts to reconcile Samuel Ajibode, a businessman, and his wife, Rebecca, had proved futile. He said the court had no option than to dissolve the union for them to go their separate ways.

“Both parties are no longer husband and wife, they are free to go their separate ways,” Adeyeri ruled. The petitioner, Samuel Ajibode (53), had filed a suit seeking the dissolution of the marriage over the wife’s infidelity and excessive alcoholic consumption. He told the court that his wife was promiscuous and in the habit of cheating him. “My wife is having affair with many men, I saw her enter into a house with a man hugging and kissing. 

“But, she is now accusing and fighting my first son for telling me that she is dating the man,” he stated. Ajibode described Rebecca as a drunkard, saying she often gave alcohol to the son to drink and both would start misbehaving after. He accused Rebecca of always maltreating her stepchildren. “Rebecca detests her step children, she does not give them food and she once poured hot water on my first son and also beat my second son to stupor.” He said Rebecca was a troublesome woman and that due to this, “I had to leave the house for her and moved to my brother’s house”. The petitioner said Rebecca also colluded with his tenant, a herbalist, to sell his house. “That day, I saw three people in my compound inspecting the environment. I accosted them and asked them what they were doing in my compound

Read More

Do men honestly fall in love?

Hmmm…most people es­pecially women act as if love or rather the act of falling in love is a gender thing. They behave as if men are heart­less or our heart is made of stone and we can’t feel anything. This is why this may be one of the most commonly asked questions by women of all ages. Do men hon­estly fall in love? For me, I do have a very different take on what love is and how individuals should act while being in love and what is not love, but for the sake of answering this question, I’ll use the word “Love” to mean roman­tic attraction and sexual chemis­try between a man and a woman though loving and being in love goes beyond romantic attraction and expression or sexual chemis­try with me.

What is funny is that the way both genders fall in love is differ­ent but a lot of women expects the stereotypical way that they know of by them as the only way to fall in love and anyone who doesn’t conform to that way can never know how to fall in love or what love truly means. Unknown to a majority of women, men fall in love at first sight even more frequently than women do. While within the first fifteen seconds of meeting someone for the very first time, a woman would have decid­ed sub-consciously if she will give a guy a chance for him to try to make her fall in love with him or not, in the same amount of time, a man will decide if he loves how a woman looks or not. It is based on his visual reassurances that a man will most likely unconscious­ly make his decisions of falling in love and it doesn’t take much con­viction unlike a woman who has to be proven to in so many ways to trust a man’s intentions. If a man is not physically attracted to you, trying to make him “fall in love” with you is really like trying to wake up a dead horse because you’ll only be seeing what you alone want to see and believe. And lest we forget, men don’t lie about that, they will always let you know they find you attractive and will be very plain and straight-forward too about it.

Most women believe because most men come out with the truth on how they fell in love with their partner it cannot be real love. But come to think of it, don’t we all love having a partner we can all show to our friends like prized gifts from God? It is really double standards on the part of women to say that because men’s loving starts from visuals, then it can’t be real love. I for one will not want to be with a woman who apart from intellectually stimulating my mind will not visually stimu­late my eyes. And yes I know that this may not be really fair to those women who may not be visually attractive to me. But the truth is that it’s because they weren’t vi­sually attractive to me in the first instance that made me not to fall in love with them or with every woman I see on the streets or I meet regularly. It is basically the same with women who will use emotional and present or future financial viability safety as an unconscious or conscious reason for falling in love with their part­ner. And let’s not delude ourselves here without being able to face the truth, every woman must either be sure of her man being able to satisfy her emotional, psychologi­cal or emotional needs before she can commit herself to that man.

In conclusion, a man will stay in love with a woman because of the way she makes him feel start­ing from what he saw. It’s differ­ent for each man, depending on his needs. A guy who feels good being in charge will respond to a more docile female, while a guy who hates making decisions will go for a bossy girl. If he needs to feel like crap, he’ll end up with a woman who will do him the favour of dealing him a load of it. Does he need to feel superior? He’ll hold out for the insecure mouse. It’s about how HE feels when he’s with her. But in all we really are not different. For if a man is get­ting his emotional needs met, a woman will look, sound, and smell like a queen. He won’t necessarily get what he deserves, but he’ll get what he needs, whether he realizes it or not. Relationships work when partners recognize the emotional forces that brought them together and are both willing to work on themselves and the union.

Not really -by: JACQUI IWU

What a question huh? While typing this top­ic i was tempeted to say ‘’NO’’ but i thought about it deeply and as i continue to type, i still feel a kind of whizzy about this sensi­tive question. Saying ‘yes’ either will not satisfy me seeing all the sil­ly games men play with women in the romance and marriage depart­ment of life. So do not box me into a corner to choose or else i will go for a ‘NO’. Am jinxed with this topic… aren’t i…..???? so what i will do here is just to spill exactly how i feel about the whole love stuff regard­ing our own present generation. Yea ..sure…you do not expect me to use the cave men generation to relate to this …afterall..i never met any of them huh? I am just going to use the generation i met in my own life time to deal with this brain hack of a question today. By the way, if you still feel strongly about this topic or my take on it, join our Saturday Breakfast meeting in Abuja and be part of our ‘’Meet-Greet’’ forum. Here you will have opportunity to share your opinion on a whole lot of issues like this one Let’s roll!!!!!!

Loving someone could be de­scribed in so many ways. Again people love for different reasons. Now focusing on men and asking if they really love honestly brings to the point of how men conduct themselves these days when they are attarcted to a woman. Most men actually cannot differenciate between crush/love/lust. How can you meet a woman today, in two days time you are talking of sleep­ing with her and having sex? What is this? In the process of your rant­ing, you will say- ‘’i love you’’ more than hundered times just to see if the woman will fall for your tricks. Yes, it is a trick because for you to actually love someone honestly, you must have to court/date that per­son to get to know her very well. Again i do not believe honest love is instant. Love at first sight? Crap!! Bullshit!!!! Maybe in the olden days but not these days as we talk! Hon­est love has a lot to do with apprea­ciating both the good and bad sides of a person so how can you meet a woman for the first time and you stupidly blurt out the words- i love you? You do not even know if she is a mermaid, a ghost for crying out loud…what do you know of some­one you just met for you to say…i love you? Like i said earlier, my an­swer for today’s topic keeps leading to a NO answer but for the sake of few men…just few men…. i will put in a fight for them. There are still some men but very-very few who can comfortably love a woman in all honesty. When you see and meet such men, you will be asking where they come from….if they are actu­ally humans or angels from heaven. These men are interested in having you around them and sharing life issues with you and you can hardly hear them bother or ask you for sex till after a long time they have been seeing you. They are concerned about your welfare and always will­ing to sacrifice to make you happy to their own detriment. The last thing they will do is to make you sad or fool you. Such men are evn afraid to kiss you or make stupid sexual moves in your early stag­es of relationship. Their love goes deeper than the erotic love…they just love who you are….your entire being and are just satisfied seeing you…hearing your voice. Damn…. how many men are like this these days? How many? Just few of them around and you do not find them easily. The type of men you see ev­erywhere are all those crude ones who are confusing themselves with love/crush/lust and looking for women to put into romantic coma without any care in the world. If you are not willing to give in to their sexual demands, their stupid love song, you are history! So you see folks….we have more men who crush than love. They crush hon­estly but hardly love honestly. If you still feel am not making sense here, tell me the reason why a man meets a woman today and all he de­sires for the next few days is sex? Is this honest love? Those few men who still love honestly have actaul­ly saved all the lust male sharks from my bullet today or else most of you who fall into this category would have swore! So i urge you good guys to keep being decent and loving….some of us out here still appreciate your honesty

Read More

Genevieve releases second trailer

T.E.N. (The Entertainment Network), producers of the feature film, Road To Yesterday, have released the second teaser from the highly anticipated film scheduled for nationwide release on November 27th, 2015. The second teaser features and introduces Nigerian-British actor, Oris Erhuerho, who plays Izu the burly husband and father. Last week, audiences experienced the first teaser with Genevieve Nnaji as Victoria the conflicted wife and mother. Set in Lagos, Nigeria, RTY is an epic love story about a couple desperate to mend its marriage on a road trip to a relative’s funeral. However, when memories and secrets from the past are revealed, a lot more is at stake than their relationship. Erhuerho is better known for his role, Honore, in the Golden Globe nominated HBO movie, Sometimes In April. This is his first Nigerian production. Directed by Ishaya Bako, RTY also stars Majid Michel, Chioma ‘Chigurl’ Omeruah and veteran Ebele Okaro. The Nigerian premiere is set  for November 18th, 2015 in Lagos

Read More

Mothers must be their daughters’ confidants – Ireti Doyle

Not many people in the limelight still have stable homes today. How are you able to keep yours?

I think I am lucky to be hooked up with a man like Patrick. I’ve never seen a more confident man. Besides, we are into the same career. There’s nothing I am now that he hasn’t been already. He’s been there. He’s done all I may be seen to be do­ing now.. It’s one thing to have a talent and it’s another thing to have someone who would help you grow it. He helped in grow­ing me in to a talent. He knew what was go­ing to happen down the line. He had done the mathematics and it doesn’t worry him because he knows that I am coming home to him. He has no worries whatsoever. We’ve been married for years now and we are still on. We can be very boring to other people but we are very homely buddies. We like to be at home; we may be locked away in our room for as long as we want. He trusted me and supports me immensely. I respect him greatly; he is my kind of man any day, a blessing I must emphasise.

Would you say this has helped you in your career?

Of course, it has and very greatly too. When the home front is good, you can be rest assured to be at your best in your working place. Acting is one career or one job that desire creativity time after time and if you are not emotionally stable, it will be hard for you to be at your best. This is what has helped me to cope with my role in Tinsel. It is a very challenging role but a lot of things have helped me to put in my best.

Most parents are finding it tough to raise their teenage kids. What do you think is responsible?

A lot of this can be blamed on the high level of technology that comes with civili­zation that we are all exposed to. The side effects are more felt by the young ones than the adults. They are too exposed to a lot of things that many adults did not know anything about until they came of age. The internet is there telling them to be free with life. The much noise about safe sex with all kinds of contraceptives and all is on another hand to give them the free­dom of a carefree sex life. They are abreast of family planning information and the vogue of being bold and daring where dressing is concerned is not also helping any moral lesson. In addition to the above is the fact that most parents, mothers espe­cially are into one career or the other that takes them away from their children and homes. Today’s children grow faster than those n the past, learns faster than those in the past and parents are never there to put them real through life. All these add up together to make raising them up very difficult.

What do you advise on this?

I will advise that mothers especially take more time out to be with their chil­dren. They have to forfeit some things for some things as nothing goes for nothing. It is a big price I know for them to pay but it is a worthy one. They need to spend more times to devote to their children. We live in a world of high technology, a world of high indecency that if one does not take care very early in the lives of these chil­dren, they may get consumed. Their ori­entation may get twisted and their future may just be ruined. Parents need to devote more times to their children. They must be careful to understand the world we are currently in and take a principled stand to instill good moral lessons in their children. These children are not just the future of their parents; they are the future of the so­ciety as a whole. Their welfare must come before ours. They must be the priority of their parents. They must be available to them, mothers, especially must be the best friends of their daughters. They must be their confidants. They must also be good examples to them, monitor what they wear, the films they watch, the friends they keep and get them closer to God.

Broken homes have become almost a com­mon place in Nigeria now. What will you attribute this to?

The issue of broken homes is not pecu­liar to Nigeria alone, it is everywhere but like you said it was not as popular as it is these days. It is very unfortunate that a lot of marriages are getting broken within a very short time but you see, a lot of reasons can be responsible. If you ask those who have fallen victim of this, they will surely have different stories to tell. There are lots of reasons for this. It varies from immatu­rity, incompatibility, peculiar personalities to other reasons like poor financial status, unemployment and environmental factors. Like I said it varies from case to case. It is different strokes for different people.

Why will you recommend marriage for anybody?

Marriage is good for everyone more im­portantly for companionship. No doubt, it is also designed for procreation but I tell you marriage is best for companionship. No matter how much time one spends out of the home, your spouse remains your best friend if you will see it that way. Even the holy Bible says so. It is not good for a man to be alone. And just as it is not good for a man to be alone, women should also not be alone. Loneliness is bad for every sane person. It is bad for productivity and for everything. It says further that two heads are better than one, meaning one head is not good enough no matter how wonderful the head is. The best thing in short in any marriage is companionship. The thought of having someone at home to discuss with as your very own, at all times makes it very important.

Are children and other people who are close associates not good as companions?

Children and all these people, friends, sisters and other close associates are good companions but, they cannot be as much good companions as your husband. Age, at a time will count against the children and no matter the closeness, you cannot possi­bly discuss everything with your siblings, friends and neighbours. It is not even ad­visable. These people are third parties no matter how you look at it. Your husband is supposed to be your best companion. Who is a companion? It is your best friend, your confidant, a reliable and trustworthy per­son. He or she is expected to be very mature and quite experienced about a lot of things. As for me, this is what I have enjoyed most in my marriage. My husband has been the best companion I have ever had in life. He is my best companion. He is my best friend, a brother, a lover and of course a father.

What are the credentials you will recom­mend for anyone going into a marriage?

Basically, the person must be sure that he or she is really ready for the marriage. This, in terms of emotions, spirituality and economical strength. It requires a high level of maturity and this goes beyond the physical. It also goes beyond the fact that your friends and colleagues are almost all married. You must be sure of what you want, why you want to be married and be sure that your partner is also ready for the marriage. It is dangerous to just get into a marriage when the other party is obvious­ly not ready. If a party forces the other in any way, may be by way of sudden preg­nancies or by way of offering to sponsor the marriage due to your own comfortabil­ity in any way, it may all boomerang at the end of the day. Both parties must be truly fond of each other and must be sure that they both want the marriage, that is, they are both ready to live with each other. If they are both fond of each other in all hon­esty, they will be able to endure each oth­er’s weaknesses. If both are economically strong to a good level, they will be able to keep the love as much as possible. Above all, if they are both mature, they will be able to tolerate each other and grow their marriage. Maturity is very important in every marriage.

How essential is money in a marriage?

Very essential! I mean very essential! If you go into a marriage thinking love is go­ing to sustain you, don’t worry – Surprise! – surprise! It’s even a spiritual injunction. A man must be capable of taking care of his wife. At least, have prospects, have a job and a roof over your head otherwise where do you expect your wife to be after the marriage? If you marry a woman be­cause of her own money or her parents’, you will end up not having a say in that marriage. It will be hijacked by the par­ents or the wife herself in a way as time goes on. No woman enjoys occupying the position of the man in the house and still be expected to double as the wife. It is not implied in any of the holy books and it is definitely unAfrican. It is your duty as a man to do all that. That’s not to say that she won’t contribute especially in today’s dispensation but it is your duty to provide the basics. If you don’t have that, what business do you have getting married? It means you’re not ready to become a hus­band yet.

Read More

Should women change their names after marriage?

Each time a baby arrives in any household, the next thing in the minds of the parents, well wish­ers and the family members is the pomp and pageantry that characterize the eight day, which is the naming ceremony day.

On that day, all and sundry gather to give the child a befitting name, which supposedly is intended to propel him and his destiny through life. This is because according to oral tradition, names spir­itually opens doors as well as direct or redirect destinies. Consequently, names like Ayomide, Oluwayemisi, Chiebuka, Ego, Ezinwa amongst others are readily given with the sole purpose of shaping the child’s destiny. This is even as the immediate past president of Nigeria, Dr. Goodluck Jonathan, is said to have had everything worked out for him because of his name – Goodluck.

That notwithstanding, names given at birth have not really, and cannot be said to have propelled to any form of destiny, positive or negative; but people through a dint of hard work have carved a niche for themselves, and consequently, created a name which opens doors irrespective of whether it has religious connotations or not.

“Names, as far as I am concerned, are just tags, and do not portray much in the real sense of it. People strive to become what they will be. You cannot tell me that a vulcanizer who wears a doctor’s appar­el has become a doctor. No, it does not work like that. Not all Ades are kings; not all Egos are wealthy; not all Nwachuk­wus fear God or receives God’s blessings. What you make of yourself is what you become; name or no name,” said Casmir Okoro, a sociologist.

He reiterated that no matter what one bears as name, only what he could do for himself will stand him out in the society.

Sometime, not in the distant past, when Mr. Emmanuel Ojukwu was made the Police Public Relations Officer, a group of journalist, during a parley, asked him if by any means he is related to the Ikemba Nnewi, late Dim Chukwue­meka Odumegwu Ojukwu because of his name. though his answer was in the neg­ative, something about him suggested that he was happy to have been connect­ed with the former Biafran warlord.

Consequently, names like Babangi­da, Otedola, Saraki, Adenuga, Dangote, Ojukwu, Okadigbo and many others seem to be puzzle solvers in varied situa­tions including getting contracts, admis­sion, jobs and any other favours reserved for the privileged.

According to Chief Musiliu Odunsi, a community leader, names of people who had achieved prominence in life tends to ring a bell wherever they are mentioned, and answers every nutty question. He added that public officers, administra­tors and government officials accord re­spect to these names each time they are brought to the fore.

“There is actually something in a name; I mean prominent names of achievers. Their names carry the aura they have created for themselves, and tend to speak for them even in their ab­sence. Why do you think the likes of for­mer Bianca Onoh married Emeka Ojuk­wu, even as her father was a governor, or why the beautiful and young Lara Fortes married Edo State governor, Adams Osh­iomhole? The quest to answer a superior name is not ruled out,” Odunsi said.

These same reasons may also account for the reasons the female folks who had carved a niche for themselves seem re­luctant or even recalcitrant in assuming the names of their hubbies or discarding their own names completely.

Dr. Olabisi Durojaiye-Abiodun, who runs a private pharmaceutical outfit, be­lieves that it is tantamount to cheating if a woman is forced to drop a name she had labored to make just because she married a husband, asking where the husband was when the woman was busy attaching importance to her maiden name. Accord­ing to her, the best a woman can do is to add the man’s name to hers in the unlike­liest of situations.

“A woman spends all her life trying to build her name, and suddenly society wants her to drop the name just because of tradition. That’s cheating! Times have changed! Where were the man and so­ciety when she was busy building her name? I am so benevolent to have added my husband’s name to my maiden name, and that’s the limit a woman who wishes to be considerate should go,” she said.

While towing Durojaiye-Abiodun’s as­sertion, many Nigerian women see the dropping of ‘hard earned’ maiden name as foolishness, saying that such will re­turn the woman to oblivion, especially if the name of the husband is something only obtainable in obscurity.

Instances abound of the likes of a for­mer member of the House of Represen­tatives, Abike Dabiri-Erewa, ace broad­caster, Ruth Benamasia-Opia, and many others who belong to the school individ­uals who combine maiden names with matrimonial identity. This is because they have been in practice with their names long before they dabbled into mat­rimony. Both women had been household names as they were regular faces on the Nigerian Television Authority as news­casters.

Eunice Opara, a youth corps member, serving with Surulere Local Govern­ment Area, Lagos, said that though she was yet to marry, she doesn’t see herself dropping her name completely for anoth­er man’s name. She said even at the level she is presently, her name has gone plac­es and established an age-long identity. Consequently, dropping her name will be tantamount to losing an identity.

“My name has come to be me. All these years, I have strived to nurture it. As a re­sult, I don’t see myself dropping it com­pletely for any other. This is because I am afraid of losing my identity,” she said.

Her colleague, Ijeoma Okeke, collab­orated her stand, questioning the ratio­nale behind the tradition.

“There are certain traditions that need to be done away with. Why must a woman abandon her name for another man’s? I thought the Beijing Conference took care of all these,” she fumed.

In total disagreement, Pastor (Mrs.) Titilayo Shogbade, explained that drop­ping of a woman’s name for her hus­band’s name is in furtherance of the biblical instruction to ‘submit’ to one’s husband, saying that any woman who thinks it is wrong should not complain if her husband loves her haphazardly.

“The Bible commands that a woman should submit to her husband, and bear­ing his name without reservation, is one area of submission. It is not negotiable except you want your husband to love you with reservation. You need not go into marriage if you think it is wrong,” she asserted.

Pastor Shogbade maintained that one has no business marrying a man whose name she cannot discard her own to bear.

However, while most women manage to add their matrimonial names to their maiden names, some feel it is completely unnecessary, and out rightly discard it. A typical example is Mrs. Joke Jacobs, who is better known by her maiden name, Joke Silva, and whose matrimonial name is quite unknown to not a few people.

To Joke Silva (Jacobs), the individu­als are two different people, and had to remain so. She claims that she became who she is as Joke Silva, and has to keep it that way as far as her professional life is involved. She added that her matrimo­nial name comes handy in matrimonial settings.

On Moji’s part, she feels more at home with her father’s name – Olaiya – which according to her, opens influential doors for her.

But Mrs. Barbara Owolana, a sec­ondary school administrator, said it is a psychological thing, seeing that wom­en, being who they are flows better with stronger men; they have no patience for weaker men, either in physic or finance. Consequently, if their father’s name seems to bear the mark of opulence and influence, they will stick to it, and if oth­erwise, they will swiftly make a switch.

“Women love power and money, and are willing to swing their tentacles to where they flow the best. Even women whose husbands have passed seem to retain his name much as they are mar­ried to some other people like Senator Florence Ita-Giwa, who still attaches late Dele Giwa’s name to her name, 29 years after his death. It’s just about what you can get, and nothing more,” Owolana said.

But what is the opinion of men on the issue? Most men looked at it indifferent­ly while some said they will never live under the same roof with a woman that would not bear their names.

“Never! I will not dwell under the same roof with a woman recalcitrant enough to reject my name, no matter how highly placed or educated. I am a typical Afri­can man, and African tradition entails a woman jettisoning her name for her hus­band’s after marriage, and that is where I stand. No more, nothing less. Even the holy books condemn such act,” the com­munity leader, Musiliu Odunsi, vehe­mently spat.

Odunsi’s assertion seems to be the consensus opinion of most men who spoke to Saturday Mirror on the issue as there is no legal implication to whether one takes her spouse’s name or not.

Read More

Cynthia Morgan insults Burna Boy

Simanitiya, the latest music video of I’m Taken singer, Cynthia Morgan, is one that just might get her in trouble with her male colleague, Burna Boy, who played the role of her lover boy in the video.

Prior to the video’s release, the two of them had released suggestive pictures which made it seem like they were dating.

The video’s arrival however made it clear that their recent closeness is due to the fact that they were starring in the same video.

And being that they are both stars, the normal thing is that both their names should be in the video’s credits.

Shockingly, though, Burna Boy’s name isn’t on the video, and this omission, or more likely, commission, is one that might just sour whatever relationship he and Morgan has, as it’s nothing but a professional insult that he wasn’t credited.

Read More

Wanted is for those who hate me —Wande Coal

Popular singer, Wande Coal, has finally disclosed the title and artwork of his highly anticipated sophomore album which is billed for release this month.

The long overdue album is appropriately titled Wanted and its artwork is attractive, to say the least.

Even as its yet to hit the market, Wanted is already generating ripples because, speaking about it, Coal has made comments that people believe are directed at D’Banj and Don Jazzy, his former bosses at Mo’ Hits Records, who released his extremely successful album, Mushin 2 Mo’ Hits, and then failed to release his sophomore album.

It’s believed in most quarters however that the Mo’ Hits non-release of Coal’s sophomore album was a deliberate ploy.

And so Coal had this to say about the album which s finally ready to see the light of day.

“Finally, Black Diamond presents Wanted, my sophomore album. This is for the diehard fans, the critics, haters, the media houses and more importantly, those who never stopped believing. This is a reminder of who I was and who I have evolved into. This is where I want to be. WANTED.”

Read More

2face’s biography for public presentation on October 20

A Very Good Bad Guy: The Story Of Innocent ‘2face’ Idibia, the biography of Nigerian pop icon 2face will finally be released on Tuesday, October 20, 2015.

The book launch, according to NET publisher and Idibia’s former publicist, Ayeni Adekunle, will hold at Terra Kulture, Lagos.

The 460-page book will contain a wide range of materials on Idibia’s life and times, including accounts from his mother, his wife, siblings, colleagues and mentors. It will also contain selected lyrics and discography, as well as editorial materials dating as far back as 2005.

The biography, done in commemoration of the singer’s 40th birthday, is a first-of-its-kind for any pop star in Idibia’s category, and the first by any contemporary Nigerian media platform. Fully funded and edited by NET News, owners of Newsroom, THENETNG, Orin, NECLive and Star, the biography is part of the NET Book Series, a dedicated project to document an important era in Nigeria’s creative industry.

“It’s the first of many,” Ayeni says.

Already confirmed for Idibia’s book launch are the duo of Tee A and Ali Baba who will serve as event host and book reviewer respectively.

The event will also feature a live conversation between book editor Ayeni Adekunle and 2face Idibia.

The 2face Idibia biography is the second installment in the NET Book Series, following the publication of Chris Ihidero’s Wanderings Of A Rapidly Degenerating Mind earlier this year. The book project is projected to replace the company’s weekly print newspaper which has in recent times been epileptic and is already scheduled to go off the stands later this month

Read More

Olamide, Phyno, Lil Kesh, Others Set To Storm London For YBNL’s Concert

Olamide and his goons which includes Lil Kesh, Adekunle Gold, Chinko Ekun and Dj Enimoney will thrill UK fans to their toes during YBNL‘s London Concert come Sunday October 25, 2015.

Also, Phyno will turn up as a special guest at the forthcoming concert which will be the first ever YBNL U.K. concert and is a one night only event, set to happen live at the venue TROXY in London.

“London has become the unofficial second home for African stars and its an honour to be performing for those fans in the UK that support me regardless of the distance between us’’ says Olamide, CEO YBNL.

The event is organised by Smade Entertainment, and will be hosted by UK comedian and OAP, Eddie Kadi.

Read More

Drake shares adorable photos with his dad

Drake has always said his relationship with his father was strained in earlier years after he left his mother. However, they have rebuilt their relationship with Drake even featuring him in his “Worst Behaviour ” video.

The rapper shared new photos of them hanging out!

Read More

5 Shocking Facts Revealed By Scientist About SE.X

And you thought sex was a natural occurrence? Well, here’s an update! Scientists from across the world have come together to prove that sex is completely scientific, perhaps as technical as photosynthesis and we bet the following scientific facts about sexual contact between two individuals will leave you completely shocked!

1. Lower cholesterol boosts sexual performance: If you are struggling in the bed, then chances are you’ve got to get your cholesterol level duly checked up by a doctor. Well, it might sound ridiculous but high cholesterol can actually lead to erectile dysfunction. And, according to a study undertaken by researchers at Rutgers University’s Robert Wood Johnson Medical School, people who take medication to lower their cholesterol level can actually enjoy better sex eventually.

2. If you don’t cuddle after sex, you can’t satisfy your partner: Women have been demanding it for ages, but looks like men will have to finally agree to cuddle their partners in bed, after a rocking sex session and that’s all thanks to a University of Toronto study, which has proven that cuddling post sex is as important to relationship satisfaction as the intercourse.

And, this satisfaction has everything to do with the release of oxytocin, which is produced when a couple indulges in a loving session of cuddling.

3. Get aroused and sex won’t be messy anymore: Well, isn’t sex a messy activity, mostly when you’re not in a mood? Well, that’s all because of the fact that sexual arousal overrides the body’s natural “disgust response, implying that you won’t find the act messy as long as you’re enjoying it.

According to a study undertaken by researchers from University of Groningen in the Netherlands, when a group of women were asked to watch either an erotic film, a sports video, or a neutral video of a train, and then perform a series of unpleasant acts (like drinking out of a cup with a bug in it), they found that those who’d watched the sexual acts rated the tasks as less disgusting and were also able to complete more of them as compared to their counterparts.

4. Some individuals are wired to have more sex: Yes! Well, while we are not hinting at nymphomaniacs or people whose sexual drives are overtly high but according to a University of California, Los Angeles study, an individual’s brain wiring may influence the number of sexual partners he or she has.

The researchers came to this conclusion when they performed brain scans of volunteers as they viewed sexually suggestive images and then probed the subjects about their individual sexual behaviours of past year. Apparently, it turned out that individuals whose brains were most active while viewing the sexual images, were also the ones who had most number of sexual partners.

5. Sex does burn calories. Here’s proof!: It’s the most commonly cited thing about sex but seldom have people believed it and guess now, it;s the time to actually get your facts right because according to a study by researchers from the University of Quebec, getting busy between the sheets for an hour can burn as many calories as 30 minutes of jogging!

Read More

Darey Art Alade Releases N*ked Promo Photo

Nigeria’s singing sensation, Darey has just released a quite controversial promo photo on his instagram page.

The multiple awards winning vocalist, on the back of his visits to his former schools and where he grew up, released a promo photo of himself without clothes on, on his instagram page.

Peek below:

Darey who is preparing to drop his new album captioned the photo:

“Being Naked isn’t just about Nudity, it’s also about being honest, being vulnerable, being real. Today, I’m asking you all to do something you’ve never done before. Tell someone something (like how much you appreciate them), apologize for something, share something you’ve been meaning to, launch a new idea you’ve been nursing, a new ambition, anything…and Tag me in it using #DareyNaked #Naked”

Read More